3 Steps To Discovering The Purpose of Your Life


Determining our purpose in life can be one of the most challenging questions we humans must try to answer. In this article, we will go through a step-by-step process exploring your feelings and options. By the end, you should have a reasonably solid tool you can immediately employ in your life to help give it a meaningful direction!


There are three steps to the process of discovering the purpose of your life:


  1. Understanding the principle of choice
  2. Creating your “underlying principle.”
  3. Aligning your life with this underlying principle

Understanding The Principle of Choice


Norman Vincent Peale has this to say about the power of choice. “The greatest power we have is the power of choice. It is a fact that if you have been groping under unhappiness, you can choose to be joyous instead. And, by effort, lift yourself into joy. If you tend to be fearful, you can overcome that misery by choosing to have courage. The whole trend and the quality of anyone’s life is determined by the choices made”.


“Choosing” is the most important activity of your mind because you are proclaiming your desires to your subconscious mind by making a choice. Once the subconscious mind knows your desires, it will do anything to manifest them in your life. The choices you make in your life become your goal. And, if you are sincere in pursuing them, there is no reason why you should not accomplish them.



Indecision, on the other hand, creates frustration and anxiety and can confuse the subconscious mind about what you want. But your choices must be made by following your true desires, purposes, and aptitude. Many of us let others make choices for us or make our choices according to what we think is ‘correct,’ even if that means that we go against our wishes. What is suitable for someone else may not be right for you, and the way to know this is by listening to what your heart says.

So, to begin with, list things that interest you, things that you have always enjoyed, make you feel better, and inspire you to surge ahead, no matter what obstacles you face. Do you like doing something creative or something artistic? Do you enjoy nature? Do you like the sea? Do you enjoy helping others? Do you benefit from making a difference in other people’s lives?

Whatever it is that interests you, write it down and answer these questions:

● What thing do you love to do?

● What is it that you love in this thing and why?

● How could you do this for money and make a living?

Creating Your Underlying Principle


The next step is to examine the list you just made and find out if there is any recurring theme. It could be the contribution that keeps coming up, an effect to seek or give love, or to help your parents cope with old age. Whatever it is, try to identify the central theme of the things you love to do and put it in a short and precise statement. This will be your ‘Mission Statement.’ It may even be a quote by a famous person or a philosophy that has influenced you. Of course, as you grow up, this statement could evolve, but its soul will remain the same. Now, write down your Mission Statement

Aligning Your LIFE With Your Underlying Principle

The final step in this journey is to map your path to your ultimate purpose and to begin implementing changes that help to align your daily life with your underlying goal. By making these little changes in your lifestyle, you will start to be able to begin living this principle out each and every day. It might take a few days, but by becoming aware and intentional of this underlying principle of your life, you will undoubtedly start to feel the difference in your enthusiasm for life as a whole. If you realize that you love being amidst nature, plan out your holiday. An outing with your children could be enough to recoup your energy. If you discover that you enjoy helping those in need, look for opportunities to volunteer in your community. On the other hand, you may want to change your job or start a new business more aligned with your mission.

So there you have it! By following along with the steps outlined above, you will be on your way to finding and living out your purpose. And, as you go through this process, remember, “You were put on this earth to achieve your greatest self, to live out your purpose, and to do it courageously.” – Steve Maraboli